You know I have felt like I need to start something like this for a while now.....but maybe more now than ever. I am a teacher and have the summer off, so right now I am really experiencing how tough this parenting job really is. I am currently with my three children 24/7 and I get it. I know how important and how tough this job is all together. First of all I want to tell you that I thank God for Delaney (4), Jackson (3) and Kennedy (18 months).........but man there are days that they challenge me. I just got done reading the book I WAS A BETTER MOM BEFORE I HAD KIDS......and let me tell you it speaks in many tongues to me. I sat and nodded my head and on occasion screamed YES!!! Today I saw the authors of this book on Oprah.......and I have more books I need to read of theirs. But it is great to know that other moms are also in the position. I believe more and more in the fact that moms need to have more of a support system these days, that motherhood is not a performance and more often than not moms have unrealistic goals in their heads. I have created a great support system for myself........first of all facebook is a great new way to communicate for me, and amazes me how much other moms think like I do! But my friends Amy and Jen are my sounding boards, they both have kids my kid's ages and they get it. They understand things I am saying and on occasion sit on the other end of the phone and just listen or don't try to fix the problem........or often laugh at me, yet I know they understand my position. But I got off the phone with Amy today and I heard her say her mom was making cookies with her daughters for 4th of July...............and 2 hours later........yeah sure as heck there I am making cookies with Delaney. They didn't turn out well because I was in such a rush, but Delaney enjoyed the idea. I have to quit the expections and just do for me and my kids..........PARENTING IS NOT A PERFORMANCE.
kid moments today....
I asked Delaney in my very patient mom voice, ......"Hey can you put your shoes away for me?" And she does it.........then comes back to the table and says "Now mom I need you to put your shoes away for me by the door" I think I would look really nice in an orange straightjacket don't you?
Went to a friend's house for fireworks tonight......and all of a sudden Delaney and Jackson were gone..........oh yeah........putting on rollerblades..........let me just say that was a insurance deductible just asking to be wasted!!!
Have a good day today and a better day tomorrow. Happy 4th!
